For all the GUYS out there
For all the guys out there,
I dedicate this blog for u who dont or are trying to understand womens’ peculiar feelings and attitudes when they’re falling in love, or even perhaps when they aren’t in love with you.
My friend once asked me, "how do u know when a woman likes u back, only from a phone conversation?"
My answer is see if she’s interested about you, yourself. Not just merely asking ur questions back to you. She likes you when she wants to know general facts about you, ur life principals and ur goals in life, without you having to ask her about it first.
Becareful when she REPEATS questions (with obvious answers) she had asked before.It could be that she feels uncomfortable talking with u and did that in order to fill the awkward moments with a conversation, and i mean any conversation will do.
When womens’ attitudes change during relationship, and those changes are into bad demeanor, for example: she begins to treat u arbitraily, easily tempered for small problems (which previously wouldn’t be an issue), unwillingly chat with you and always looking for excuses to end ur conversation over the phone, underestimates ur decisions, problems and opinions and not afraid of showing it. She will only behaving like that for one reason, there is other man.
Well perhaps 95% possibilities for there is other man (not necessarily dating other man, but at least she has feelings for other man), 5% for other reasons, i daresay.
Not every woman, of course, showing these kinds of symptoms when they’re seeing another man, there are certain women capable to conceal it. But take it from me, when it occurs in ur relationship there will be only one explanation for that (despite the fact that she denies it).
When a woman ask a man "do u like me?" it means that she likes him, and hoping that he liked her too. A friend of mine been asked this question, but the girl didn’t want them to be in a relationship. He was completely befuddled by the situation. What does she mean? what would she ask that question for if she doesnt want to be in a relationship?
A woman would only ask that bcos she likes him, but at that time she still has doubts about certain matters, and just not quite sure whether he’s the one for her. But she likes him for sure.
When a woman rejects your dating invitations over and over again for some ridiculous excuses that is the time when u should stop asking her out, you shouldn’t think that one day she would be softened and change her mind and actually go out with you, sometimes women do but most of the times we dont.
I couldn’t think of anymore problems, but feel free to ask me anything about womens’ strange behaviour =p ill try my best to answer it.
ko-hii
November 17th, 2006 at 12:50 am
hm…. kok g ngerasa di omongin ya? hahahhahaha
hm….. ya yang loe bilang emang bener…. kalo g bilang itu bagi cw yang bener serius dalam membina sebuah hubungan, dengan kata lain wanita itu sudah berpikiran bahwa dia akan menikah dengan orang itu. istilahnya…. wanita dewasalah (kayak loe :p)
bagi g yang masi sekia :p g emang mikirin kedepan, tapi mikirin itu gak ada guna tanpa usaha. jadi sekarang g sedang berusaha hahahahhahahahah
coba dibahas dari sudut pandang yang lebih objektif yan….
November 17th, 2006 at 1:05 am
huah? huehhehe.. kayanya lo salah nangkep maksud gw deh sen, gue nulis blog ini cuma buat ngebantu pria2 di luar sana yang bingung sama sikap ce yang aneh klo mereka lagi in love, ato bahkan ketika mereka lagi ga in love with you. Dan perilaku semua ce ketika in love kurang lebih sama aja sih. Jadi ga ada hub nya sama ce uda dewasa ato blom, ato apakah si co uda dewasa ato masi sekia. Blog gue berlaku umum koq, untuk segala kalangan dan segala usia
peace (^0^)V
ko-hii
November 19th, 2006 at 11:48 pm
hmmm…ceritanya kok familiar yah…eh g minta royalti yeh hahhahaha…menurut g kadang ga segampang itu memetakan msalah beginian…masalah beginian jauh lebih rumit sih menurut g…gitu loh hehehhe
January 17th, 2007 at 5:22 pm
you’re opened for any questions rite?
well let me ask this one then,
why is it most girls play hard to get when a guy obviously showing that he likes her, and then play it steady with just-be-friends attitude w-h-i-c-h then kinda drives away the guy, and THEN, when he’s already accept this ‘just-friend’ situation, she tend to show even clearly that she “began” to like/love him back.
actually i’m quite understand the ‘play hard-to-get’ in the first place *still consider it a n-o-r-m-a-l behaviour for girls*, just sumtimes confuse with the later parts.Coz for some guys, having a crush on some girls, are plainly having a crush on some girls. and when you get the rejection attitude from a girl, some of us would still shamelessly still chasing her, while the others decide to, -you know- open our eyes and re-schedule our mind that probably she is not the one for us.
Someone dear said to me, its becoz probably the girl doesnt want to lose her ‘Fan’, so in such ways she’s panic when realizing he already ‘kill’ his feelings towards her, u know, i mean, come on, i’ve face lotsa cases like this and is it true what my friend told me? is it true most girls do that kinda thing? (this of course, despite of wether the guy decide to love the girl back or not :P)
January 18th, 2007 at 10:30 pm
yooo man, uve posted a very long question there hahaha..good question. and i have to say, wad ur friend told you is INDEED THE CASE.
And now since u reminded me, yes, alot of my guy friends had been asking me the same question before. And i always tell them these:
There is typical of women out there, tend to enjoy all the attention they get from the man who apparently have a crush on her.And even if she didn’t like the man in return, it didn’t matter,
she loves the feeling being precious (at least in the eye of the man who has feelings for her).
And hey, she even get to brag about this to her friends, bonus point! (women talks u know, but i guess uve realized this fact already).
By the time the man was getting too obviously showing her his feelings, pouring her with all the attention and love he got, she became irritated and thus making a distance from the guy (please note that when a woman has no feelings for a man, she would feel annoyed and irritated, sumtimes even disgusted if the man got too intense chasing after her). This is the point where she would made an avoiding gesture to give the man i’m-not-interested-so-let’s-just-be-friend hint.
This is still a very normal situation, it could happen to every woman.
When a man had accepted the situation, many things change. He’s no longer attentive to her, not even keepin’ her in touch and perhaps begins attracted to another girl. He’s no more attached to her.
At this point, there are two typical of women’s reaction :
The first type, would feel very relieved that the man is finally getting her hint and understand the she’s not into him.
The other would fret and her ego rising, and STARTS to think that the man should remain fancy her even when she wasn’t. She does not want to lose her fan (bravo to ur friend).
Obviously the case u’ve been asking me is the second one.
She then, begins to pull that man into liking her like before. aNd the man thought “ah.. finally she likes me now” etc, etc
This is going on in circle, over and over again.
No, not MOST girls do this stuff, but i happen to know A LOT who do this.
Take my advice, don’t bother to go into the third round. not much difference gonna hapen.
phew… quite a long answer i made here, could be another blog i guess
hope it helps, cya!!
January 18th, 2007 at 11:49 pm
any suggestion of recognizing this type of woman ? :p
January 24th, 2007 at 11:46 pm
HAHA unfortunately, there is NO OTHER WAY to recognize these women, than to plunge ur self into the situation lol.however, take my advice, if there even the slightest hint about ‘her’ taking u to the third round, abandon ur mission immediately lol.
January 25th, 2007 at 4:58 pm
roger that…
… over and out …
hahaha..
February 21st, 2007 at 12:45 am
there are more women than men in this world.. so, why should we be worried if someone rejecting us ?? women will always come and leave through our life.
March 28th, 2007 at 5:37 pm
Budi: finding any women is easy bro, as easy as turning the back of my hand. finding the R-i-g-h-t woman, is on the other hand, not as easy as it seems.