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To all my friends out there (and to anyone who’s just experienced a terrible break ups with their partner)
read this and save ur breath from feeling sorry for urself,
grief for a while,
and then be strong,
make a determination,
and move on.
hope this blog could help.

I believe that people tend to hold on to the past relationships because they grow so accustomed to the other person. They develop such strong feelings for the person that we tend to say to ourselves that "this is the one" "I have never been so happy". We grow to close to these people that we believe that this is the type of person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. If you have been with your ex for any considerable time, it is next to impossible not to think of them. When two humans take up the majority of each others lives, mentally, emotionally, physically, a bond is created. Now the trick is to break the bond otherwise be a slave to a ghost that you gave power to.

Take it from me, the absolute worst thing you can do is attempt to get in to contact with your ex (regardless of the reason). This is the very reason for no contact. Have you all heard the statement "time heals all wounds", it is very, very true;  The point is, in order to get your head right, you have to get into the mud of your pain and work it out. The last thing you need is to be jawing with you ex, you just keep drinking the poison your trying to cure yourself from.

I urge everybody to look deeper. What I urge everyone to do is gain perspective. The main thing that rings is "you never can go home". I know that many will disagree with this. But really how many relationships get back together and are better, forming into a lasting love affair and possibly marriage….. Less than 10% guys. All relationships end, how one chooses to deal with the end, will determine much about your character. EXAMPLE: I might feel sadness, anger and frustration resulting from the end of my relationship; but, is the reason I feel this way because of him/her? NO, NO, NO. Just because you burn a tree down doesn’t mean the roots are dead to. Hurt and pain is much deeper.

hv u ever been in this kind of situation.U want nothing more than to just be with him/her for a while. Talk to him/her for a while. Bcos u know when u talk with him/her ull feel much better (at least at that time, and for a short time it will!! wadever….)

Fight the temptation of calling him/her and shoot the breeze. fight it because while hearing him/her voice would be very nice, it would cause u a lot of pain in the end. Nothing lasts forever. I think all of us wish things could have "worked out" or "lasted a little longer"… but it serves no purpose to mourn such things. All relationships end. Sometimes sooner, sometimes later. It’s just part of life. Sometimes stepping into the light can hurt your eyes other times it warms your face. Sometimes you have to be dragged into the light. I’m not one to quietly sit and watch someone drown in sadness and pity. I think a short time in the dark is good, helps with grief. We all have to feel the pain of loss… It’s human. We’ve all been there.

BUT I LOVE HIM/HER!! Hey, you still can, nobody said you had to not care, nobody can take that away. They just don’t love you. Your character is determined by what you do in crisis, not what you do in comfort. You need to think about how you will be remembered. You could A) wallow in self-hatred, being angry because what you had is no longer. Or you could B) Understand that is has always been you.

IT’S ALWAYS BEEN YOU. You are making yourself feel pain, you are pining, you are analyzing, you are falling back. NOBODY IS GOING TO SAVE YOU… Good, we don’t need them. If we all are hurting ourselves, then we can all save ourselves. If you really want to get better, I mean really, accept that it’s over and put one foot in front of the other and walk. Good luck guys.

Thx to William J. Ruston a.k.a Chapez a.k.a Dwemer for this inspiring idea of coping up. and thanks for letting me to put it in my blog. And also thx for introducing me to MUME!! nice game =D

ko-hii

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